The Freedom Project for women survivors of domestic abuse

THE FREEDOM PROJECT

Provides support, awareness & recovery programmes designed for survivors of domestic abuse:

11 week Freedom Programme 12 week Toolkit Recovery Programme

availiable to women from:

Brandwood  Druids Heath Kings Norton  Billesley  Northfield

If you are a woman seeking a place on one of our programmes or would like to find out more information please call Jacky or Donna on
Tel: 0121 624 5775
Mobile: 07868163103

email: info@birminghamfreedomproject.org
Office Hours:
Monday to Thursday 9.30am – 5 pm
Friday 9.30am – 4pm

If you are an agency wanting to refer someone please note that we cannot call women on your behalf. Instead please give them our details so that they can self refer if they wish to do so.
Women’s safety is our priority and if the abuser is in their house when we call this will put them at further risk.

FREEDOM PROGRAMME

The 11 week programme is open to women 16+ who want to learn more about the reality of domestic violence and abuse in relationships. Each session runs for 2 hours per week and looks at all the different characters and controlling behaviours of the abuser.

The aims of the Freedom Programme are:

ñ  To help women understand the beliefs held by abusive men and in doing so, recognise which of these beliefs they have shared

ñ  To illustrate the effects of domestic violence on children

ñ To assist women to recognise potential future abusers and assist in breaking the cycle of violence

ñ To help women gain self-esteem and the confidence to improve the quality of their lives

ñ To introduce women to the community resources

 

Weekly Sessions:

Week 1 – Introduction – the Dominator

Week 2 – The Bully

Week 3 – The Bad father

Week 4 – Effects on Children

Week 5 – The Jailer

Week 6 – The Headworker

Week 7 – The Sexual Contoller

Week 8 –  King of The Castle

Week 9 –  The Liar

Week 10 -The Persuader

Week 11 – Early Warning Signs

 

TOOLKIT RECOVERY PROGRAMME

 

The Recovery Toolkit is 12 week course that builds on itself week by week. It aims to help women to recover from the psychological trauma of being in an abusive relationship. This is a follow on for women who have completed the Freedom Programme.

 

Group Sessions

Week  1 –  Introductions

Week  2 –  What is abuse and recognising the warning signs

Week  3 –  Introduction to Self Esteem

Week  4 –  Coping with the psychological distress. Bill of Rights

Week  5 –  The affects of abuse on children and parenting skills

Week  6  – Raising self esteem through affirmations and positive self talk

Week  7 –  Anger, conflict and how to be assertive

Week  8 –  Anger, conflict and assertiveness revisited

Week  9 –  Identifying boundaries and how to put them in place.

Week 10 – Loss and what can be reclaimed. Review of the Bill of Rights

Week 11 – Recognising warning signs and handling intimacy.

Week 12-  Measuring the increase in self esteem and celebrating success

 

Where funding allows groups take part in other self development activities.

During the last year groups have taken part in:

 

ñ  A 12 week Art Project in partnership with Fluid Space culminating in an exhibition of their art work

ñ  A 7 week Poetry Performance Project ‘Free Speech’ in partnership with ‘Speak Up Write Down’ culminating in a book of poems which was presented at an event at The Roadhouse

ñ  Zumba classes

ñ  Social Fabric Art Project – artwork exhibited at the mac

ñ  ‘Million women Rise’ march and rally in central London

ñ  One Billion Rising – Event Demanding An End To Violence Against Women & Girls

ñ  8 week Cycling Project

 

For further information and to discuss the programmes in confidence please call

Jacky or Donna on 07868163103

 

Comments from women who have attended previous programmes:

 

I now know that I am not to blame and this is not my fault

This programme is one of the best things that I have ever done in my life. It is filtering through to all my other relationships

I now realise that I didn’t deserve to be treated the way I was and that he was to blame, not me

At first I was requested to go by social worker but I realised within the first few sessions that I was being abused and so were my children.

The whole experience was great, I met other great women and I learnt a lot about abusive tactics.

I’ve regained my confidence, I’m able to do as I please and be myself. I’m more aware of tactics of a dominator

I’m more confident and outgoing, I no longer think of my life as empty and useless.

It has been a very valuable and worthwhile experience and I have suggested it to other women I know

Each week my eyes were opened up more and more

I met others who had been through the same as me, Knowing I wasn’t the only one made me realise that it wasn’t my fault

I feel so much better about myself, more confident, more sociable and happier

I used to make excuses for him, now I realise that he knows exactly what he’s doing, he is in full control of his actions

I feel like a better person and have a better chance of getting my children back as I know I will not be in this situation again

I have so much extra knowledge now and am able to tell people exactly what he did, I couldn’t put it into words before.

I didn’t have any idea that I was a victim of DV, I now know that I was abused and I now know all the early warning signs of an abusive man.

I now have no contact with my ex and I am so much stronger.

Learning that I am not alone and that it was not my fault and that I couldn’t change him was an eye opener for me

I think it is important that we all learn about domestic violence as sometimes we don’t even realise we are being abused. I now know it wasn’t normal behaviour

I wish I had have learned this at school

I was so confused about what was happening to me, I now I realise that that was his aim. We are easier to control when we are confused

It helped me regain my self worth as I was finally getting the right support

I learned that its ok to laugh, its ok to cry and its ok to feel, we laughed a lot. It was knowing laughter

I was living in fear and oppression, the programme was a lifesaver

The programme gave me the courage and support to leave my partner

I have met so many other women that have been through the same as me, I didn’t realise it happened to so many others

I feel so much better within myself and feel confident in spotting abusive behaviours and tactics

Have a clearer understanding of what a healthy relationship looks like

I know what to look out for now, I understand the very subtle early warning signs

It is great to talk to people who understand

I believed that I loved him and that the abuse was normal. I now realise that he was abusive and that it was not normal behaviour and that I deserve better

The programme has helped me so much, I now know that it wasn’t my fault and that he is to blame not me.

I finally gave up on the hope of him changing. Why would he when is abuse gets him rewards!

I no longer feel to blame for how I was treated. I realised that he believes he’s right and that he’s entitled to treat me this way. Society backs up his beliefs too

I have finally realised my own strength and courage and that there is life after him!

I have opened up so much since coming to the group. I am a new person

I learned that being hit isn’t the only meaning of domestic abuse

I feel empowered and am now doing a degree

I feel stronger and more alert and more aware of abusive behaviour

Love the group discussions, I’m glad I eventually came.

Feels good to be part of a group and not feeling so alone

I am starting to value myself and have returned to work

I realised that I am not imagining it after all, just because my marks cant be seen doesn’t mean it hasn’t happened. My scars are inside but are starting to heal

It gave me the courage to leave my abusive partner

Feel less isolated now and am more confident

I realise that ‘I matter’ and that I deserve to live a life without fear

I feel safer and no longer walk on eggshells and nor do my children

I have learned that abuse is a choice, he chose to abuse me